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EPISODE 11: 3 things to build the person you want to be Dec 01, 2019

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I can’t keep going like this.

Darcy caught me. 

 

I had been looking at inappropriate pictures on my company laptop when she thought every thing with my pornography problem was behind us.

 

We were suffering through a really difficult miscarriage and I was turning back to the old things that made me feel better whenever I was feeling less than good.

 

She was furious. 

 

She threw that laptop down the stairs, along with some laundry detergent and...

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EPISODE 10: Boundaries - how to set them Nov 25, 2019

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 This podcast is for pornography users and their spouses.

Today we are going to talk about boundaries, and specifically, what they are, what they aren’t and how to set boundaries that you can be happy with so you can move forward into having the relationships you want to have with the people around you.

This is really for you couples who are dealing with pornography and are looking to create boundaries that will help you grow and improve your relationship, rather than...

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EPISODE 9: Urges - How do you stop feeling trapped by them Nov 18, 2019

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EPISODE 8: Choices - Solutions to get unstuck from pornography choices mission prayer tell others Nov 12, 2019

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Choices – the way forward.

Finding your way is a matter of choices and making the ones that you believe will bring you the most happiness.

So, I often work with young men struggling with pornography who are just about to graduate high school and, for members of the church of Jesus Christ of latter-day saints, that means that they are getting ready to choose whether they will serve what we call a full-time mission.

That means that they will spend 2 years away from family,...

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EPISODE 7: Five things you can do to overcome pornography skills Nov 04, 2019

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I was having a conversation with a fellow coach friend of mine

She had walked in on her 16-year-old son using pornography

We got to talking about how she reacted and how finally she said to him ”I can’t keep you safe”

The truth is that we can’t keep our loved ones from doing any of the buffering that they choose to engage in.

In fact, I had a dear friend who for the last decade and a half have a weekly habit of Viewing pornography.

He is an extraordinarily...

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EPISODE 6: How to stop buffering buffering experiential avoidance Oct 28, 2019

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The first thing you’re going to do to reduce buffering is to allow urges.

-      Allow vs eliminate

-      Allow vs indulge

-      Urges come no matter what

 The second thing you’re going to do to reduce buffering is to make all of your decisions involving your usual buffer with your higher brain.

-      Plan it

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EPISODE 5: Buffering - What is it and why are you doing it? Oct 21, 2019

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My wife was out of town, it had been a hard day at work, my business wasn't doing well, we were on the verge of financial ruin, I was lying awake in bed and I was going down that familiar path to pornography use.

Before I talk about how it all ended, let's talk about what pornography use is for most people.

There are addicts, those people who, without regard for the consequences and unable to function without it, use substances, including pornography to get through the day.

This is...
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EPISODE 4: The 12 steps are probably not working for you Oct 13, 2019

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I started attending 12 step meetings in 2007.

 

I also went to meetings sanctioned by the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, of which I am a member.

Those Church sanctioned meetings were full of guys that were pretty similar to me. No one had committed a crime (I don't think) in pursuit of their sexual desires, but none of them seemed able to overcome their pornography use either.

So every week for a number of years I would sit in the meetings, I would say, “My...

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EPISODE 3: Believe - it is the key to change Oct 10, 2019

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EPISODE 2: Failure is a good thing and here's why being enough Oct 09, 2019

Overcoming Pornography Sometimes Means Failure, You Can Learn From Failure and Succeed.

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So many addicts are hindered by their view of failure that it actually creates greater difficulty in overcoming their pornography use.

As a coach I teach my clients that thoughts are one of the biggest factors in how we feel and act, leading to the results we create.

When they view pornography, fall off plan, eat more than they thought they should, they view that as a failure and can often fall...

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