Micro Habits - they make us and they break us
A few months ago my wife and I went to a conference where we heard a neuroscientist speak. (I know, don't we sound like a fun couple?)
His topic was micro habits.
A micro habit is essentially a small change that you add to something you are already doing.
I decided to try it out. I started doing pushups, every time I went pee.
At first I could only do about 3 pushups and that was my goal.
Soon it became 10, then 20, now I can do 50 pushups in a row.
What does this have to do with overcoming pornography?
Each day of our lives we create little pathways in our brains that build habits. We can either build habits that make us better, stronger, more amazing; or we can build habits that keep us on paths that we would rather not be on.
Building micro habits makes a difference in our work to become free from pornography because we can begin to replace the steps that we are walking to use pornography with steps that help us become pornography free.
Habits are just paths in our mind. They start as dense jungle that we have to hack our way through. Then they become foot paths, followed by dirt roads. Eventually, as the habit becomes more engrained, we pave the dirt road. Finally, habits can become super highways, easily traveled at high speed with no traffic in sight.
Each time we use a neural pathway we are strengthening it. So, when we use pornography, we are strengthening the neural pathway that keeps us using.
Each time we ignore that pathway in favor of another, we strengthen the other and begin dismantling the old pathway.
So, next time you see yourself starting on the path toward pornography use, see if you can step off it and walk through the jungle of your mind to do something else.