Wanting is risk free - what does that get you?
Wanting gets you nowhere
Whenever I work with someone, one of the most common phrases I hear is, “I just want to be done with this.”
I remember saying that myself a thousand times.
I would cry, beg, plead with God to “take this burden of pornography use from me. Just take it away, I want it gone, I don’t want to have it in my life anymore.”
Often as I was driving and the enormity of the feelings that I was dealing with and the gravity of my actions bore down on me, I would tearfully implore for relief from my greatest flaw and biggest failure.
The words, “I shouldn’t be doing this” and “I should have this under control by now” often rang in my head.
I wanted to be free from pornography more than anything that I had ever wanted.
It wasn’t until I became committed that change started to happen.
You see, wanting is just desire and wishing. There is no risk involved. How many young girls have wanted a pony and daydreamed of having one but find their backyard empty every morning?
Wanting isn’t a plan. Wanting isn’t work. Wanting doesn’t make different choices. Wanting isn’t uncomfortable. Wanting isn’t committed.
There is a great poem titled “The Will to Win”.
Two refrains from it will give you the picture:
If gladly you'll sweat for it,
Fret for it, Plan for it,
Lose all your terror of God or man for it,
If dogged and grim you besiege and beset it,
You'll get it
Commitment makes us doers. Commitment brings thought, desire, wishing, planning, and doing together.
Commitment costs time. Commitment costs money. Commitment costs work. Commitment costs comfort.
Commitment is action.
Giving up our addictive behaviors requires commitment in ways you haven’t yet determined.
Ask yourself, is what you’re doing now or have been doing to this point bringing you the progress you want?
If the answer to that question is yes. Keep going.
If the answer to that question is no. Sign up for a free mini session – make a commitment to do something now.